An opinion is a belief or judgement that falls short of absolute conviction, certainty, or positive knowledge. I never thought much about opinions in depth, to me they were just our thoughts. As I never thought I had control over my thinking, my opinions followed suit and I know that I have been on this hamster wheel of uncontrollable thoughts and opinions for a long time. Its not fun and to be honest- exhausting!
Practicing having no opinions this week has been an absolute breath of fresh air. I cant believe how much more relaxed I feel after only practicing it for a few days. I have not mastered the technique yet. It will take me a little while of careful observation which I am thoroughly enjoying. Am I that ego minded that I need to assert my objective to whoever I can find? Is it even necessary? What does it help or change? I have always asserted my opinion with the honest belief that constuctive views are positive. But are the always? Are there other ways to be helpful? I think so.
It is not as simple as, just not having an opinion. You must replace it with another skill. ‘Listening’ how fantastic is that. I am not always the best listener but since being involved with MKE I believe I have focused and improved on my listening skills greatly. There is so much more to a conversation than just listening, you are engaging. Taking note of their expressions, tone and body language. This tells as much of the story as their words do and sometimes even more.